Okay, so this last weekend my friend got engaged and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I'm super excited for this, but there is a small kink. Tell me if I was cool about handling this.
The wedding is going to be a destination wedding in the islands. The first estimate for the stay was $1200 a couple. That means that most likely I would be paying $800 for just me. (The room is no cheaper, just subtract meals.) Then, there's the plane ticket. It will most likely cost $400-$600 to fly there. Then, there is everything else you add for wedding. Now, that's not too bad, until you add on the second reception in NE, a $200 dress (and it's yellow, yikes!) And the fact that the wedding was originally planned for fall and is now in March!
All this added to the fact that I am going to Germany next fall (a little 30th b-day present to me), it's a little costly. I told her I want to be a bridesmaid, but in reality I kinda need an estimate on how much the wedding trip will cost. I was planning on going, but my saving period just got shortened by 6 months. :( She was cool with it and even said that she would understande if I couldn't make it. I am not sacrificing the trip/wedding for money but if the trip is going to cost $2500, then another $400 to be an attendant kind of bankrupts me. However, if it is close to the earlier $1500 estimate, I can swing the extra cash. (These specifics were not mentioned to her. She's got enough on her mind.)
What do you think? She said I could just be her personal attendant, too. I would rather stand with her if I can. Was I rude or inconsiderate to give a 'conditional' acceptance?
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Do what your inner voice tells you. I had a wedding and it doesn't matter in the end about the day, it matters what follows. If you don't think you can afford it, don't. You can be her friend and support for the rest of your lives. I think you know the answer. Just do it.
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